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The secrets to a stress-free morning routine

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  • Raising a self-reliant child not only benefits the child, it also benefits the parent.
  • If you instill the desire to be independent early on, it will save you time in the long run!
  • Teach children how to wash hands, to wash face, and to get dressed by themselves early on, and they will do it without your even having to ask in no time!
  • Avoid saying “did you brush your teeth” three times.  Instead, ask “did you forget something?”
  • For younger children, create a routine chart.

Support vs. Over-Parenting – your child’s first job

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  • There is a fine line between supporting young adolescents and taking over for them.
  • Going to job interviews with your child really conveys the message you do not think they can do it on their own.
  • Let your children do things and fail.
  • Learning from mistakes teaches resilience and self-reliance.
  • Support and listen when they are sad, tell them you have confidence in them, and that you believe they will be successful.

Why weaning from finger sucking can be harder than giving up the pacifier

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  • With a pacifier you can decide when to “pull that plug”, not so with fingers.
  • By preschool age we can instruct them there are times and places where finger sucking is appropriate.
  • Tell them it is ok to do it, but it is something they do in private.
  • Most will give up the habit by age six, others will do it when alone.
  • If there is no room available for private sucking, avoid the nag and be gentle.
  • Give them the choice to stop – but do not engage in power struggle.
  • Use positive reinforcement like sticker charts to motivate your child.

The best discipline for your young child

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  • When choosing a consequence for a misbehavior, consider how severe the misbehavior was.
  • Create a consequence that is related to the misbehavior.
  • Make sure it is a consequence you can follow through with.
  • Have small repeatable consequences in your back pocket ready to go should a misbehavior occur.

Why a backwards shirt is a good sign of parenting

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  • It makes me so happy when I see a child come into my office with clothes on backwards or not matching
  • I know that it is a family environment where that child was given the autonomy to choose what he or she was wearing and to get dressed on his or her own
  • As children grow, they realize where tags go, what matches and what doesn’t
  • If you empower the child to make those choices and learn the skills early on, you will have a child who can get himself or herself ready for kindergarten